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‘One More Thing’ and a list of heart questions.

March 24, 2017

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“For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it — lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish’?” Luke 14:28-30 

There is a lot that you could fill your time with when you are part of a church community. 

People who could do with a visit. 

Babies being born and so a meal for the family would be a nice. 

Meetings to attend on almost every night of the week. 

Cards, emails or texts that you could send to those that need encouragement. 

Causes that could use an hour of your time.

Baking to do for events. 

Then there are school commitments, sport commitments, community commitments. The list goes on and on. You can always find that ‘one more thing’ to commit to, even if you have no time to actually do it. 

“In my head I am so distracted by the busyness of all those ‘one more things’ that have piled up on my plate.  So many jobs to do and commitments to follow up on.  I have little to give back to my family. One more thing and I might snap. Some one please give me more hours in my day! There are so many people to please…”

This was me most of the time before I started using the following heart questions to weigh up if I do indeed have the head space/ time/ money to commit to that ‘one more thing.’ 

Do you have the time to do it? If you do commit to it, what will suffer? Your home, your family? Will having to rush around doing that ‘one more thing’ cause you to be short with your husband or yell at your kids? Will saying yes, leave you with little reserves for the important things in your life? Are you able to nurture your family, husband or children when you have nothing left to give?

Can you commit emotionally? Sometimes you have a little nagging ‘no, don’t commit, you know you have a busy week (or month or year), you know you have enough on your plate right now’ voice in your head. How often do we listen to that little voice? Or if your heart is saying ‘yes’, does it match up with your reality?

Can you afford it? This applies to anything that will cost you money, like a meal, going out for coffee, that bunch of flowers. If you can’t afford it, don’t commit. 

Where is your heart at? Why are you saying yes? Is it to save face? Is it because you are worried about what people think of you if you say ‘no’? Are you trying to be ‘as good’ as the lady sitting on the next pew? Do you think your ‘good works’ might make people like you more? 

Where does this leave God? We can be very busy doing all the ‘one more thing” and then have less and less time to spend with God. Resting in His Word and coming to Him in prayer has to be our number one job on the list everyday. You will never regret making Him your priority. 

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Keep your list manageable. Commit only to the things that will allow you to have Him as your priority! Say ‘no’ or ‘not this time’ to requests that you know will leave you gasping for air or wishing you didn’t commit. Realise that your commitment list might look totally different to the next person as God has all given us different gifts.

“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” Deuteronomy 6:5

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{Grateful for: giving Facebook the almost flick}

July 28, 2012

If you have perused my “about me” page, you’d see that I have tried to cut down on my Facebook usage.  You might be asking “How’s that going for ya?”

Well,  let me explain the extent of my addiction to the little fb.  (that’s short for Facebook and for the entirety of this post, that is how it shall be known.  Oh and this gets quite deep – so feel free to pour yourself a good red..)

I got a friend request to join fb from someone about four years ago.  As I didn’t really know how fb worked, I didn’t go on it a lot – and with only a few friends – it’s actually quite boring.  As time went on, I got more friends, became more fb savvy and slowly but surely I was sucked into the great mindless void that is fb.   You know when you get up in the morning and the first thing you do is check your account, or when you NEED to have the app on your phone, or when you get miffed that you didn’t get tagged in a particular photo… you know it is time to call it quits.  But I didn’t.  The friends number crept up.  I became friends of people who I didn’t speak to regularly – but I knew when their child was constipated.  To people who wouldn’t normally say hello when you passed them on the street, or at church  – but  I knew that they had a birthday party for little sally*and aunty X* made a wonderful cake in the shape of a pony.  Which is really great  – but did I need to know that?

I know I have written my fair share of mindless drivel (love that word..) I had my dummy spits when friends wrote the word “yous” in their posts (no, it is not a word!) I sent private messages to those who I thought needed some of my wisdom, in a more private forum.  But I kept my account  and maybe on the rare occasion would I drop the odd person who annoyed me too much.

There was too much judging of other people, and not enough inward focussed self-evaluation.  It took a post by a good friend to make me see what I was doing.  That same day it took someone else who I see on an almost daily basis,  to make me realise that they were depending on fb to communicate with me.  That day I had a light-bulb moment.  That day I took a stand.

 I started by deleting all my fb friends who live close by.  I deleted everyone who never really reciprocated the “friendship”.  I deleted people who I see on a regular basis – yes, those who I worked with, those that I am friends with and yes, even family members.  Shock, horror!  It has been the topic of some school yard discussion – but I feel LIBERATED people.  I have my life back with my select little group of friends that I don’t see all the time.   I don’t go onto fb a lot now.  Maybe once or twice a week.

I am grateful for that.  Spending more time getting back into blogging has been an absolute joy.  Learning to use Photoshop and Illustrator has been a challenge, but a lot of fun.

I could never say that I was ever grateful for fb.  Can you?  How much tedious information do you have in your mind everyday from all those seemingly harmless status updates?

*name changed to protect identities.

Linking up with 52 weeks of grateful via Maxabella loves

photo of the keeks and the dog. she’d love it if we said to her “ok, he can sleep on your bed.” the blur to the right is the paiglet who doesn’t ever stand still..

back to watching the Olympics.  apparently some guy just fell off the parallel bars.

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