Have you ever considered that it could be really easy for stay at home mums to be super lazy? In this day and age of social media, tv shows and movies on tap, a cafe or shopping centre on every major street corner, we could become very lazy without trying very hard at all. In fact, you might even appear to be super busy, running from here to there and not actually achieve anything worthwhile for days and weeks on end. There is always a better reason not to be at home, and if you are, housework is really the last thing on your mind. And do you know how EASY it would be to get away with this laziness, especially if none of your children are at home during the day, or if your children are very young and not able to give the ‘laziness low-down report’ coherently to anyone?
The facade can’t stay up for long if this is what you want to spend your time doing. Cracks would start to appear, small ones at first and then bigger crevices destabilising the very foundation of your home and family.
You’d start getting behind on chores. Things would be misplaced as you don’t have time to put things away properly. Hygiene goes out the window as who really wants to do the toilet AGAIN for the umpteenth time this week. The kids will forget things and suffer the consequences of your forgetfulness. You won’t want to show hospitality to anyone as the house is becoming a dive and why should YOU have to clean it up on your own anyway? It’s a mad dash to make sure that uniforms are washed and dried each day for school and not unusual for the kids to do a laundry basket dive to find their school clothes. Dinner is a last-minute affair and it’s more often than not that you go for the easy option of takeaways. I could go on and on. I’ve been here from time to time during my years of motherhood.
Well. Do you know what God says about laziness? He says don’t be!
Titus 2:5 “.. so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, working at home.” Working at home! Not lazing on the couch or spending all that money.
2 Thessalonians 3:11 “..we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies.” Busybodies or maybe our present day keyboard warriors? Oh, and the busybodies and the lazy people were told they couldn’t eat either. Hungry busybodies!
And then this Colossians 3:23-24 ” Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.”
You are mothers. A task chosen by God for you, right now in your life. Be content in this and do your task well and heartily as it says in Colossians. Do it for the Lord and you will be rewarded! Every little thing that you do for your family are things that make your home run smoothly. Every little act of service that you do for your husband allows him to do his job well. Be busy being godly mothers and housekeepers.
Be ready to serve your family so that things go well for them at school, in the community, at work or in the church family. Be busy with things in the home and do them cheerfully so that you are ready to entertain and hospitable to those in need. Be busy making your house a home, a soft place for your children to fall. Be ready to teach and train your children in the ways of the Lord.
Yes, it can be mundane. Yes, it can be tiring, especially if you have small children and excruciating sometimes as a mum of teenagers (totally not speaking from experience) but it is exactly what God wants you to do well right now. Your mundane is his Kingdom work. As Paul Tripp says,”If God doesn’t rule your mundane, then he doesn’t rule you. Because that’s where you live.”
So am I saying that you can’t go out for coffees, or just have some ‘me time’? No, not at all. I know the value of time spent with friends with that bottomless pot of tea, or a few hours on your own to readjust your
tiara equilibrium. What I am saying is, you can have an orderly household and have the down time as well. In fact, you’ll enjoy that down time a whole lot more knowing that it is well deserved and things are ship-shape at home.
And on the days where you need to just put the feet up, don’t feel bad as we all have those days. But when it does become a pattern of laziness, or busyness doing a whole lot of nothingness then we need to stop and think – am I glorifying God in this?