Children as young as eight with unsupervised internet access including social media accounts and being exposed to pornographic content and images.
Teenagers as young as thirteen years old addicted to pornography.
Children giving away all their private information on their social media accounts.
Girls being bullied and groomed by sexual predators via social media and messaging apps.
Girls posting seductive selfies, usually with sexed up fish lips, hiked up cleavage and so much thigh that doesn’t leave much to the imagination.
Girls posting selfies using toilet mirrors or while lounging on their beds.
Boys using foul language, degrading women and using inappropriate tags on their photos.
Parents who are oblivious to the dangers on social media.
Parents who choose to bury their heads in the sand when it comes to sexting, pornography and cyberbullying.
A little uncomfortable? Good. So am I.
All these things make me so sad.
How can we stop it? Talk about it. Take action.
And as always, I believe that there needs to be boundaries, which kinda makes sense in a Christian household, as God is a God of order and boundaries!
In our household, we have Social Media Contracts for our teenagers and I have attached them below. Click on the link and download it and feel free to cross things out that don’t apply to your children, or just use it as a guide to make your own.
Just a few things about the contract:
- Use God’s Word as your guide and I have listed a few texts. Open the Bible with your children and teenagers – it is our GUIDE BOOK after all!
- The most important part of the contract is the bit where you as parents HAVE to be on the same social media platforms as your children. Don’t brush over this. You NEED to know how it works. I am always baffled and shocked at just how many parents of teenagers who are VERY active on social media are totally OBLIVIOUS. What exactly do you think your kids are doing? Playing Angry Birds?
- TODAY you need to sit down with your children. Open up EVERY application on their iPhone and have a look around. If it feels weird, you are probably right, TAKE ACTION.
Some APPS to be aware of are:
Instagram, Pinterest, Whisper, YikYak, Kik, Viber, WhatsApp, TextNow, Snapchat, Poke, Wire, Wickr, Vine, ChatRoulette, Omegle, Tinder, Down, Skout, Pure, Blendr, Voxer, Ask.fm, Tumblr, Shots of Me, Facebook & Twitter.
Also, ask your child about ‘Jailbreaking’ apps, if they are tech savvy, they will know what you are talking about. Look out for Poof and Cydia. They HIDE apps from the screens of smart phones. Smart hey?
Most importantly, know that this is important stuff – of coventantal importance!
And please, don’t ever think that just because you are a Christian family that you are safe from these things. If you are thinking that, then you need a huge wakeup call. All the things I listed at the beginning of the post have happened to families or students that I know. This is real.
Parents, you are called by God to instruct your children in biblical wisom.
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
Deuteronomy 6:6, 7
That for us today also means how to apply that biblical wisdom to social media.