Contentment Family Life

Stop saying ‘I’m Busy’

March 12, 2015

It is not enough to be busy. So are the

You don’t often come across people who don’t tell you how busy they are these days. 

 

The kid at the grocery store checkout is busy. 

The student in year ten is busy. 

The mum with a kid at home is busy.

The grandmother with no kids at home is busy. 

The guy on the phone in the next car is obviously busy.. and dumb.

The single girl living with friends is busy. 

 

I’m busy too, but I am trying so hard not to say those words out loud as I feel they only become self fulfilling prophecies and are just a bunch of blergh words! 

 

You need to ask..

1. What am I busy with? 

Write a list of all the things that you have done this week, and then write a list of all the things that you need to complete.  

2. Prioritise

Prioritise these things with 1 being the most important to get done, 2 the next and so on. Don’t forget, unless you are Chuck living on an island, you are not the only person in your life. Consider the other people in your life as well and those priorities may include doing things your husband, your children, your co-workers, your friends, your grandchildren. The things that matter to you might actually need to take a back seat as you do the things that really matter in the long run! 

3. Delegate

Is there anything on the list that you can give to someone else to do? Write their names next to the job. It could be a big chore that you could pay one of your kids to do. It could be some telephone calls that another member on your committee could make.  Don’t be hesitant to ask just because another person may not do the job to your exacting standards, at least it will get done! 

4. Be ok with saying no.

It’s ok to admit defeat. It’s ok to tone down expectations and it’s totally ok with ringing that person and saying ‘I’m sorry, I know I committed to doing this, but I just can’t’.

5. Ask yourself why are you doing it? 

I have a motto that if I get a whole heap of pleasure out of saying what I am busy with, I am probably putting way to much emphasis on that task. If you need to rattle off everything that you have done and achieved in a day you got to take a good hard look at yourself; Especially if it’s things that you SHOULD be doing anyway. Volunteering on committees and community programs is great, it  comes from your heart,  so keep it there. People will only question your motives if you need to relay all the wonderful things you do in your life. 

6. Take time out for yourself

Make it possible to have some down time. My time is usually after lunch for an hour before the kids are picked up from school. Just me, my book and my pillow. For an hour a day. Bliss. You may say- ‘it’s alright for her, her baby is probably sleeping’, but I have always done this. My toddlers had quiet time in their cots. My preschoolers sat on their beds with a few books and stayed there, because I told them to. Even during the school holidays, if we are home, we have ‘quiet time’. It’s up to you to make it work. It’s up to you to make those routines. 

7. Review 

Go over the lists of all the things you need to get done once in a while. Reprioritise. Make decisions based on what is important to you and what is best for the long term. 

8. Change your thinking

Try no to say ‘Oh, I’m so busy’ as the only person you need to thank for that feeling is yourself, no one else. Get your priorities straight. 

 

For me, it’s about my family right now and good sleep routines for my growing little man. There are so many things I’d like to do, but right now, in this season of my life, I have to be content with these priorities. 

Are you a super busy person? What are you busy with? What hints can you share to cut down on the busyness of life? 

 

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  • Lisa March 12, 2015 at 10:50 am

    Good timing Tash! I too, dislike using those 2 words. Easier said than done. When the little tiger wants help making a puzzle, but I know there’s a mountain of washing etc to be done, it’s easy to say no to him, but giving him those few minutes is so worth it. Having said that, I did just say no to a request from someone else. My heart said yes, but my brain said no!
    All the best with those sleep routines – sooo worth it to get that happening!

    • Tash March 12, 2015 at 5:51 pm

      Enjoy the little tiger disruptions! They don’t last long!! x

  • Deb Baker March 12, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    Great post Tash. I’m guilty of saying I’m busy too much. And I’ve been thinking about it a bit lately too. I love your line about how making statements become self-fulfilling prophecies. It’s so true. My Mum is always saying “I can’t learn new technology, I’m too old” and I’m constantly reminding her that if she keeps telling herself that it will remain that way. Thanks for the reminder Tash.
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    • Tash March 12, 2015 at 5:50 pm

      The more you say it, the more you believe it! xx

  • Jo @Countrylifeexperiment March 12, 2015 at 8:13 pm

    Yes. Just Yes!
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  • Sonia Life Love Hiccups March 13, 2015 at 4:28 pm

    I am busy, but I am happily busy as opposed to stressed out busy. I mean there are stressy days sure, but I am more of a buzzing busy. Lol does that even make sense? xx
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    • Tash March 13, 2015 at 6:37 pm

      I bet you don’t go on and on about it though do you? I am a buzzing busy too, and I get a lot done in a short period of time, which helps with the buzz x

  • Kelly Exeter March 13, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    Ah well you know my thoughts on busyness. They’ve come full circle and I no longer ’embrace the busy’! Excellent post Tash x
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    • Tash March 13, 2015 at 8:33 pm

      Thanks Kelly! Busy used to be my middle name – now I (to paraphrase Sonia) buzz – and never complain about it! It’s all self inflicted! x

  • Mumma McD March 13, 2015 at 7:41 pm

    I got a reminder the other day that I need to stop saying those words, when I asked my 3 year old to help me put the toys away and she said “sorry, I’m a bit busy right now”, and she tried to out-source the job to her little brother. She’s only learnt that from me so I’ve got no one to blame but myself!
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    • Tash March 13, 2015 at 8:32 pm

      Isn’t it humbling when our kids parrot back our bad habits! Clever cookie!

  • Carolyn @ Champagne Cartel March 13, 2015 at 8:26 pm

    Oh my goodness, YES! A thousand times yes! Love this post – a great reminder to turn off autopilot and be present and conscious in our lives. Thank you!
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    • Tash March 13, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Present and Concious is always a winning combo! Thanks for visiting Carolyn!

  • rachel March 14, 2015 at 6:44 am

    Hi Tash, thanks for the reminder. We often use that word busy so quickly. I have often used it, also when talking to friends/contacts, and not realizing till later that I unintentionally said I was too busy for them. We are all busy, and if we are not, we find something to be busy with! So now to avoid overusing it.

    And did you know the acronym for BUSY, is ‘busy under satan’s yoke’. It’s a good memory peg.

    Enjoy your day,
    Rachel

    • Tash March 14, 2015 at 9:08 am

      Yes, I love that acronym! I think we are all busy, but not busier than others, and if we are, we only have ourselves to blame! Have a great day too! x

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    • Tash March 20, 2015 at 6:55 pm

      Thank you for linking to my post Carolyn! x

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